For almost 25 years I’ve put lots of thought, time and effort into getting just the right gift for my Narc. It should come as no surprise that it’s never the right one according to him.
– Says he can’t use. (But then he does.)
– Says he doesn’t need. (Even though he’s been looking into buying one himself.)
– Says he doesn’t know why I’d get it for him because …
– Purposefully doesn’t touch it or use but uses other items just like it from other people.
– Etc. etc. etc.
So, now that I’m at a different place mentally in realizing what motivates him, I’ve come to an idea. This Father’s Day I’m going to do what he does. That is, buy him something that makes me look good being the giver, something that I say is for him but is really for me, something to send an underlying message.
This is more difficult than I expected!
Have you tried this?
Any ideas would be great!