Red Flag Warning #2

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Anytime there is a holiday or special occasion, the Narc will make sure to cause conflict or commotion to ruin it. 

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What is this?!

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It’s my typical Mother’s Day. 

So, I did sleep in a little. I woke up around 9:30, made myself some coffee and took a shower.  I had made plans to go to my mom’s house with the kids for a barbecue, to spend some time with my mom and show her she was appreciated. Isn’t that what we’re supposed to do on Mother’s Day?

 When we were getting close to leaving I asked if he was going to come with us. He said, “No”.  We had a nice day with my mom and enjoyed some good food. We came home around 6:30.  He wasn’t there but he came home a little later. All of us just  kind of lounged around the house for a couple hours. Just preparing for Monday school and work.  

He went to bed around 10 PM. I changed into PJs, plugged in my phone to charge next to me on the chair and sat down to watch some Netflix.  I just wanted to relax and get that tired feeling so I could go to sleep as soon as I went to bed. I started drifting to sleep. Around 11:30 PM my dog that was on the couch across from me growled.  I looked up at him and he was looking behind me! I quietly said, “Hey, what are you doing?” to my dog.  I turned to look and he was standing behind me with daggers coming out of his eyes!  It really caught me off guard and all I could say was, “He was growling.”  The Narc’s face completely changed and he chuckled.  He repeated my words back to me and he went back to bed.

 I drifted off to sleep again and I woke to the sound of the floor creaking behind me.  I noticed he was walking down the hallway to go back to bed again.  Around midnight (this is my typical bedtime), I turned everything off to go to bed.  I couldn’t find my phone. I looked in and around the chair everywhere. It wasn’t anywhere on the chair where I had plugged it in.  I went and found my daughters cell so that I could call my phone.  I found it sitting on the banister,  unplugged from the charger, right behind where I had been sitting; right around where the floor would have been creeking.  It was so confusing! I knew I had been falling asleep but I was 100% certain that it had been plugged in next to me.  On my way to the bedroom I stopped and asked my daughter if she had used my phone.  She said, “No.”  I couldn’t quite figure out what was going on.  Maybe he thought I was up to something??  I had that weird anxiety feeling in my gut. My dog had been growling.  Floorboards had been creaking. He’d been walking around behind me and going to bed again and again. It felt like I was imagining things! 

I decided that I didn’t want to start anything at midnight. (Grey rock, right??) When I went to the bedroom to lay down he was still awake in bed and reading on his phone.  I set my alarm and went to sleep.

Unsurprisingly, he didn’t even acknowledge it was Mother’s Day.  No smile. No happy Mother’s Day. No hug.  No attempt to spend any time with me and the kids.  Typical of every holiday I suppose. 

My questions to whomever is reading this is this~ Would you have asked him what he had been doing or just let it lie? 

What do you think was happening with this type of behavior?